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The chore fight
My partner and I keep fighting about household chores. They say they do more, but I feel like I'm constantly picking up after everyone. Last night it turned into a bigger argument about respect. What should I do?
Watch demo Money tension
We had another fight about money. I want to save more for emergencies, and my partner wants to book a vacation. It keeps coming up and neither of us feels heard. How do we move forward?
Watch demo Parenting disagreements
We need to talk about how we handle disagreements in front of our kids. We want to be on the same page but we keep snapping at each other. Can you help us have this conversation together?
Watch demo Social plans
We want to figure out a fair way to split weekend social plans. One of us wants more downtime, the other wants to see friends. Help us find a balance.
Watch demo A real apology
Teach me how to make a genuine apology without making excuses or saying 'I'm sorry you feel that way.' I want to own my part and actually repair things.
Watch demo Soft start-up
Show me how to bring up a hard topic without it immediately turning into a fight. I tend to go in too strongly and my partner shuts down.
Watch demo Partner with ADHD: forgotten promises
My partner has ADHD. They keep promising to do things — pick up groceries, text me back, handle a bill — and then forget. They feel awful afterward but it keeps happening. What's actually going on in their brain, and what should we do?
Watch demo Autistic partner: shutdown after a long day
My partner is autistic. After work events or busy weekends they go completely quiet, won't talk, and sometimes just stare at their phone. I take it personally. Can you explain what's happening for them and how I should respond?
Watch demo Rejection-sensitive reactions
When I bring up small criticisms, my ADHD partner reacts like I just attacked them — they get defensive or really sad for hours. What's happening in their brain and how can I bring things up without triggering that?
Watch demo DEAR MAN: asking for a real change
I need to ask my partner to stop checking work email during our evenings together. Every time I bring it up it turns into a fight. Walk me through it using DEAR MAN.
Watch demo TIPP: I'm too escalated to talk
We're mid-fight and I can feel myself losing it — heart pounding, about to say something I'll regret. What do I do right now using TIPP?
Watch demo Radical acceptance: they won't change
My partner's mom is never going to like me. I keep getting hurt every holiday. Help me use radical acceptance without it feeling like I'm giving up.
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